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Volume
2, Issue 5 - January, 2002
"From
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Dan Bylsma’s
Newsletter
--- A Feature of West
Michigan Hockey Camp, Inc.
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www.danbylsma.com |
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Patrick, sorry to run into you
but I was
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expecting to see you in the front of
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net. What are you doing ambushing
innocent
forwards back here? .
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DAN’S TIP OF THE MONTH FOR PLAYERS…
The
single most asked question we get on the web site comes from
players wanting to know the ins and outs of playing college
hockey - recruiting, scouting, or getting a college scholarship.
We
thought it might be useful to invite a coach whose opinion we respect
(because he recruited me) to give you the straight story. Bill
Wilkinson is the coach of Wayne State University's Division I program.
He was also the Head Coach at Western Michigan University where I was happy to
give him a headache or two when I played at Bowling Green (I scored a
goal while killing a 5 on 3 penalty and my only hat trick in college
came against Western) and he was also an
Assistant coach at Bowling Green when my brother played at BG. It
would be an honor to play for Coach Wilkinson and he has sent more than
his share of players to the NHL. He has
agreed to give us the current state of college recruiting. Here's
what he has to say:
"Personally as a coach I like to see players that have had some playing
experience after their high school graduation. This brings the
student/athlete to us physically and mentally more mature
than if he comes to us right out of high school.
Can a player come right out of high school? Absolutely, but must
clearly be a cut above his classmates to compete
against the older players
he's going to encounter. Every player
matures at his own pace.
"We recruit student/athletes from all areas of the continent and by all
means. Emails, letters, video tapes, or just plain phone calls can
get the ball rolling. If you are interested in
a certain school and have the capabilities of
visiting on an "unofficial" capacity take advantage
of that. Coaches may have the time to showcase their program to you, but if not
you at least will have put your name and face in front
of them.
"With any correspondence
you send to a school try to include your SAT or ACT results and if
you have been cleared by the NCAA
Clearinghouse. The Clearinghouse requires that
you have 13 core courses: 4 years of English, 2 Math, 2 Science, 1
additional course in English, Math or
Science, 2 Social Sciences,
and 2 electives in which
you have earned a GPA of 2.0 or
better. The SAT or ACT also has a minimum that
will be needed to reflect eligibility. ACT minimum is 18 and
SAT is 810. There is a sliding scale that applies to GPA and Test
Scores that determines eligibility for
everyone. It
is the job of the NCAA Clearinghouse to declare you
eligible to participate in college athletics, no
longer is eligibility declared by the school you apply to.
However, be aware that different colleges have different admission
standards. The Clearinghouse declares you eligible, the university's
admissions office declares you acceptable.
The better the student is academically the more attractive he or
she becomes to any coach.
After all, balancing academics
and athletics is what college is all about!
"What do I look for in a player? Good question!
What are our needs?
I don't look for a goalie if I need defensemen.
"As to general
characteristics, I prefer to have players with speed and brains. I try to watch to see
if they think well on the ice! Can they
anticipate the play? Have they got the foot
speed to get there if they see what is happening? If they have the
speed do they now know what to do
- who to pick up defensively,
where to go on the fore-check or penalty kill
rotation. Just the little decisions that have
to be made in a split-second of time.
"I know
that
'It's not the size of the dog in the
fight but the size of the fight in the dog'
is a worn out phrase, but it's appropriate. Attitude and
intensity can make up for a lack of talent
- and Danny Bylsma playing in the NHL is a textbook example of that.
There are a lot more players playing at the college
and pro
level because of shear determination than ability. Every team
needs players with character not a team full
of characters!
"If you are interested in playing Division 1 college hockey
there are two things to keep in mind: playing the best competition you
can is by far the most advantageous way to advance your chances of
becoming the best player you can be (and that's not always an easy road
to follow), and, you must
play beyond the high school or midget level.
You will have a distinct advantage going into
the college hockey scene as a mature student.
Be ready to play not
watch.
"Recruiting is now a new science.
Often I go to watch a player that
I have
a lead on and come away liking someone else.
Like everything in life
- timing is extremely
important!"
Thanks Coach!
I noticed that Coach
Wilkinson didn't say anything about how many goals or assists you have.
What he did say can be summarized in this month's
SAYING TO PUT IN YOUR LOCKER.
There is also something in
Coach Wilkinson's last paragraph that I don't want you to miss. In
our books and in the newsletters I've repeatedly said, "Treat every
practice, every shift, every game as if this is your chance to show what
you can do because you never know who's watching." Now you
know: it could be
Coach Wilkinson!
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THIS
MONTH'S BEST QUESTIONS ON THE WEB SITE…
Dan:
How can my 8 year old increase his acceleration...
Concerned Parent A.
Dan:
How do you teach a 7 year old puck savvy...
Concerned Parent B.
Dan:
My Mite isn't focused in practices...
Concerned Parent C.
Dan:
How can my Mite improve his shot...
Concerned Parent D.
Dan:
My Mite's been playing for 6 months and hasn't scored
yet... Concerned Parent E.
January
must be the month when Concerned Parents of players under PeeWees get
anxious about their skater's progress because it seems the Email box was
flooded with these kinds of questions. I want to share the tale of
two children and how their parents handled questions like these.
The first tale is about how my father treated me and the rest of his
children. And while his methods would be considered unacceptable
by today's conventional wisdom, he did produce three college players and
one NHLer... an enviable record. His method was to treat all
sports as if they were games. He supplied the equipment, the rest was up
to us. If our rooms were clean and our homework was done we could
go outside and play. We chose to play sports/games.
The best example I can
give you is how we played baseball in the back yard. We started
with a baseball and a bat. When our ability to hit the baseball
outgrew our back yard, we started using plastic balls, then plastic
bats, then wiffle balls, and finally we used plastic practice golf balls
and broom handles. When I got to high school baseball, hitting a
baseball was relatively easy. There were no curve balls thrown in
high school that came close to the curve balls my brothers could throw
with that plastic golf ball. I never had a batting lesson, there
were no specialized exercises to improve my hip turn or upper body
strength. We played these versions of baseball in our backyard by
the hour, day after day. We did it because it was fun and
development came naturally without parental concern or intrusion.
And I believe I was able to compete with my brothers although being
younger because I was able to pattern my skills after what I saw was
successful for them.
The other story doesn't
have an ending yet... My little son just turned three.
Because his Daddy plays hockey, baseball, and golf, he likes to play
hockey, baseball and golf. When I get home from the rink, he's
excited to come down to the garage and we play. I have a rule that
none of the adults in his life, myself and his mettlesome grandfather
included, "show" the correct techniques to play the games. I don't
tell him how to hold his stick or his bat or his little golf club or how
to stride on his ice skates. When I'm with him, I do it correctly
and believe he'll watch me and pattern his skills after what he sees me
do in this wonderful world of play we have together, much the same as I
patterned my skills after what I saw my brothers do. And the more
he plays, and the more he observes, the more adept he becomes.
It's a joy to behold.
And the more fun he has
at our games, the longer he wants to play, and the longer he plays the
better and more adept he becomes.
A season Ducks ticket
holder wrote us recently to say there is a dramatic difference
between what he calls the "sandlot players" on his son's youth hockey
team versus the weekend/practice players in terms of their confidence,
puck sense, skills, and the fun they have. That's no surprise
to my father and me.
The moral here is that
these are our children engaged in play... playing games. They do
it for fun. The more fun they have the more they'll play their
games. The more they play, the better they will become. So
my advice to these and all concerned parents is give your players the
opportunity to play their games. An hour of 2 on 2 shinny is about
the equivalent of 15 organized youth hockey games in terms of puck time
and opportunities to shoot the puck. If you don't have a backyard
or neighborhood rink, get a roller hockey net and roller blades and your
driveway will become a Mecca of kids who will play their games
endlessly which will improve their acceleration, their puck savvy,
shots, and their puck sense - naturally. While you're concerned
about
their improvement, you will have tricked them - they'll think they're
just playing a game. But don't let them read about how Tom Sawyer
got his fence white-washed.
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MY CHARITABLE TRUST FUND...
The
kids' auction was a success. Twenty-six kids entered 138 bids and the hat
and the book went for $35.50. Two individuals (new friends of mine
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Warren Anderson of L.A. and Ron Falk of Grand Rapids) and the Bollman
family of St. Joseph, MI, each offered to
match the winning bid so 138 quarters turned into $142.00 in the trust
fund. My thanks to them and to all the kids who bid and they will all receive
a little token of my appreciation. The bidding was so fast and
furious at the end I'm inspired to have a kids' auction again soon.
Next up on the auction
is a pair of L.A. Kings tickets to the Kings/Stars game April 8th Sec
114, Row 14 (14 rows from the ice on the Kings' goal line), an autographed
stick signed by the Kings, an autographed stick signed by the Stars, our
first book, and a pass to
visit the locker room area to get the sticks and meet my friend Ian Laperriere. Since not many of you are in the area and can take
advantage of the tickets, the auction will be announced on the "LetsGoKings" web site as well as here.
The bidding will
start now at $50 and will be closed on February 1 at 12 midnight E.S.T.
You can see the rules for bidding and place a bid by going to the Charitable
Trust Fund page on my web site
www.DanBylsma.com or by
clicking here and going to the bottom of the page.
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NOTES FROM DAN'S HOCKEY CAMP (from the video analyst)...
I
was watching a Ducks' game on TV recently and they featured some Mites skating
between periods. As the kids skated, I saw an obvious problem we often see in younger
skaters. It's a bad habit that if not corrected results in a very
difficult problem to correct in older skaters. It's the problem of
not replanting the skate directly underneath the skater after the
stride.
When I was watching these little guys at the Ducks game, some of them
looked like they were skating on railroad tracks. It became really
noticeable when the tykes skated away from the camera.
Some knowledge of
how muscles are trained may be helpful to understand why it's important
to correct this problem early. Skating is not an activity
that comes naturally to most kids whose legs are trained to walk and run. A skater has to train his
muscles to stride/plant/glide. Certain tasks will be "remembered"
by your muscles. Bad technique
that is repeated requires re-training those muscles to correct the problem because muscles have memory. So good
skating fundamentals taught early can avoid having to teach an old
muscle a new trick.
Then a little bit of
skating philosophy. The goal in skating is to get as long a stride as
possible to make the most efficient use of the available energy in the leg muscles on each
stride. While we often concentrate on skating in a seated position
to lengthen the end of the stride, it's also important to replant our
foot directly underneath so we can add length to the beginning of our stride.
If this problem is not
readily noticeable to a parent or coach, one way to see this problem is
to have your skaters line up along the boards and skate along
the blue line as fast as they can, one a time, from one side board to the other and
observe if their skates ever touch the line. A skater with good
technique will be replanting each skate on or very near the
blue line. A skater with excellent technique will plant his right
skate to the left of center of the blue line thereby lengthening his
stride even more. Todd Reirden (D-man -
Atlanta Thrashers) who is a counselor at Dan's camp is an outstanding
example of great technique as he actually plants his right skate to the
left of the centerline of his body; left skate to the right of the
centerline, etc.
There are several
reasons why young skaters develop this bad habit. One is that when
they first start skating, they tend to shuffle along and by having their
feet more outboard (like out-riggers), they feel more secure on their
skates. As they get more proficient, they will lengthen the end of
the stride but often retain replanting in the same "out-rigger shuffle"
style. Another
reason is that they don't have a good knee bend (the don't skate from a seated
position). This can be a double whammy. Not only are they
missing out on a longer stride at the end of the stroke (as we've talked
about in earlier issues), but they're also forced to bring their skate forward
quickly to
avoid falling forward and plant their foot early (and short of
their center) - they don't have time to bring their foot underneath
themselves or they'll fall. A third reason may be they are not taught
the correct technique or concentrating on lengthening the end of the
stride and being unaware that replanting correctly can also add length to the
stride (and therefore speed).
The blue line is
typically 12 inches wide. If a skater is replanting outside the
edge of the blue line - he or she is losing at least six inches of his
potential maximum stride. And while six inches isn't much, it's
20% to 25% of the stride of a young skater. If you are (or are
coaching) an
older skater, using the goal line, which is only two inches wide will be
an even more challenging test.
Here's an easy drill to
teach any skater what replanting directly underneath feels like.
Have them click the heels of the skate that's replanting with the
gliding skate when they are skating slowly in warm-ups. Obviously we don't click our heels together
when we're skating in a game, but by doing a drill where they click their heels
or by clicking their heels in slow skate warm-ups, they will be
training their muscles to replant properly which hopefully their muscles
will "remember" when they are skating full
out.
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DAN’S HONOR ROLL
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I think
your academic progress is so very important that I have an academic Honor
Roll; I don't have an honor roll for hat tricks and shutouts. I hope
each of you are diligent in your studies and can either raise your GPA by
one point, or can attain a 3.5 GPA and be listed here. |
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GPA |
SCHOOL |
TEAM |
STATE |
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Mitch MacLoed |
11 |
3.85 |
Spring Lake Intermediate |
GRAHA Griffins PeeWee A |
MI** |
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Cliff Jones ‡ |
12 |
3.96 |
Spring Lake Middle |
Muskegon House PeeWees |
MI* |
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Marshall Jones |
10 |
3.85 |
Spring Lake Intermediate |
Muskegon House Squirt |
MI* |
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Winston Jones |
8 |
4.00 |
Holmes Elementary |
Muskegon House Squirt |
MI* |
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Tyler Spiering ‡ |
11 |
3.96 |
Sylvan Christian |
EGRAHA PeeWee B |
MI* |
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Zach Fussey |
9 |
3.61 |
Holy Family Catholic |
IYHL Irish Rovers Mite A |
IN |
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Joe Adams |
9 |
4.14 |
St. Paul's Lutheran |
Jr. Ducks Squirt A
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CA |
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Bryan Duke |
12 |
3.62 |
Perry Meridian Middle |
Indy Racers PeeWee A |
IN |
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Ross Hinkle |
10 |
3.69 |
Wayland Pine Street |
Grizzlies Squirt AA |
MI* |
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Aaron Alkema ‡ |
7 |
TR |
Kettle Lake Elementary |
GRAHA Griffins Mite AA |
MI* |
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Daniel Monteforte ‡ |
14 |
4.20 |
E.
Stroudsburg Sr. HS |
Lehigh Valley Bantam A |
PA |
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Bennett Schneider ‡ |
12 |
3.75 |
Ft. Meyers Canterbury |
Jr
Everblades PeeWee Grn |
FL |
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Joshua Valkema |
13 |
3.50 |
Jenison Public |
Jenison Wildcats PeeWee B |
MI* |
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Casey Hobbs |
12 |
4.00 |
Pleasant View Middle |
Pueblo Panther PeeWee |
CO |
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Mark Hazel |
12 |
3.96 |
Pinewood Middle |
Kentwood PeeWee AA |
MI |
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Ryan Corgan ‡ |
13 |
4.00 |
North Muskegon Middle |
Muskegon Chiefs PeeWeeB1 |
MI* |
Jody Lisicky |
11 |
3.80 |
Garnet Valley Middle |
Quakers Squirt AA |
PA |
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Max Goldstein |
12 |
4.28 |
Loggers Run Middle |
Jr. Panthers PeeWee |
FL |
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Jeremy Hopersberger ‡ |
10 |
4.00 |
Laingsburg Elementary |
Flint Phantoms Squirt AA |
MI* |
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Dan Dunbar |
12 |
3.93 |
Los Flores Middle |
South Coast Sabers PeeWee A |
CA |
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Barrick Bollman‡ |
12 |
4.00 |
Upton Middle |
S. Bend Irish Rovers PeeWee A |
IN |
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Piero Iberti |
12 |
3.55 |
Packer Collegiate |
N.J. Jr. Devils PeeWee
Minor |
NY* |
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Josh Corgan ‡ |
9 |
TR |
N. Muskegon Elementary |
Muskegon Chiefs Squirt AA1 |
MI* |
Kevin Brooks |
10 |
3.75 |
Santiago Hills Elementary |
Jr.
Ducks Squirt A |
CA |
Brandon Ryfiak |
10 |
3.50 |
Rockford Parkside |
Rockford Squirt |
MI* |
Mark Jannenga |
11 |
3.92 |
St.
Mary's Elementary |
Perani's PeeWee |
MI |
Paul Engman |
11 |
3.85 |
East
Rockford Middle |
Rockford Rams PeeWee B |
MI |
Lucas McShosh‡ |
11 |
3.96 |
Baldwin Middle |
GRAHA
Griffins PeeWee A |
MI* |
Andrew Fried |
11 |
3.75 |
Greens
Farms Academy |
Wonderland of Ice PeeWee |
CT |
Ian Jendro‡ |
11 |
3.50 |
Holy
Family Catholic |
Seattle PeeWee AAA |
WA* |
James Donley |
11 |
4.00 |
Maplewood Elementary |
GRAHA
Squirt |
MI* |
James Sheff |
10 |
3.95 |
Inland
City Academy |
GLAHA
Panthers Squirt B |
MI* |
Michael
Orlando |
9 |
3.5 |
Wrightstown Elementary |
Ice
World Devils Squirts |
PA |
Chris
Orlando |
16 |
3.5 |
Canterbury School |
Canterbury Saints H.S. |
CT |
Jonathan Koslop |
10 |
4.00 |
Pinewoods Elementary |
Everblades Select |
FL |
Seth
Hawthorne |
15 |
3.67 |
Grand
Haven High |
Grand
Haven Varsity |
MI* |
Zach
Runge |
12 |
4.00 |
Kellogsville Middle |
GRAHA PeeWee B3 |
MI |
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Ryan Christiansen |
6 |
3.5 |
Peach
Plains Elementary |
Grand
Haven Rec Inline Mite |
MI |
Brad Christiansen |
10 |
3.66 |
Peach
Plains Elementary |
Excel
Propane PeeWee |
MI |
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Mathew Rosenthal |
10 |
4.0 |
Chaparrel
Elementary |
Lightning Squirts |
CA* |
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Cody Hunn |
14 |
4.0 |
Fairmont
Junior High |
Texas Greyhound Bantam AA |
TX |
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Parker Ewles |
9 |
TR |
Turtle
Creek Elementary |
Jr.
Mighty Ducks Mite A1 |
CA |
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Brandon Grieves |
9 |
4.0 |
Cary
Christian |
Raleigh Storm Mites Travel |
NC |
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I hope all of you
set a goal to make this list. To qualify you must have a GPA
(on a 4.0 scale A= 4.0, A- = 3.75, B+ = 3.25, B= 3.0, etc) of 3.50 or
better, an average overall grade improvement (or OGI) of at least
one full grade over last year, or a Teacher Recommendation (or
TR) which must be Emailed directly to me by your teacher and be based on
outstanding achievement in a non-letter graded situation.
When you qualify, Email your name, age, GPA or improvement, school, team,
and state to
Number21@DanBylsma.com |
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Attendees of my hockey camp. **Mitch did the Acceleration
program with me this summer.
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PARENT TO PARENT from Jay...
Because
of the age change rules adopted by USAHockey, there are a number of
players who will be moving from being a first year (minor) Squirt to
first year (minor) PeeWee. This is significant because it means
they will go from a non-checking league to a checking league.
This situation has
revved up the arguments about checking:
1) We should
start it in Mites so they grow up with it and it's not such a big deal
when it is allowed in PeeWees.
2) We shouldn't allow
checking until Bantams when the weight/size disparity in the age group
isn't as great.
3) We shouldn't allow
checking in youth hockey at all because it drives smaller skilled players out of the
game. It's argued that changes the game from one of artistry to
mugging - perhaps a reason why most of the skilled players are coming
from Europe and the muckers from North America.
All the while the
adults are arguing these points we've learned from talking to parents and Emails we've received that some kids can't wait for the booming to start, some
kids are apprehensive, some kids are frightened, and some kids are
quitting the sport.
And this is happening
in hockey over the issue of checking while kids of the same age and
younger don't seemed to be concerned about the kind of head-to-head hitting that happens in youth football. Acknowledging
that football may attract a different kind of kid, what's the parent of
a concerned, perhaps smaller, more skilled player to do about the issue
of checking in hockey?
Unfortunately the word
"checking" has become synonymous with "hitting" even
though they are two
separate things. Checking as it could be done is allowed below
PeeWees; that is - entanglement with the puck carrier to hinder or
prohibit his advancing with the puck. So we think the first thing
a parent should do
is remind the timid player that they've been involved with checking
already. Then, I can't imagine a Mite or Squirt player that hasn't
had a bad fall or a collision with the boards. Most players have
survived more than a few of those bone-jarring crashes without so much
as an after-thought. His or her equipment has provided the necessary
protection in those instances and it may help to point out that hitting
should have no worse effect than those crashes.
There are three more things
you can do as a parent to minimize the fear factor and the real effects of hitting/checking.
The most important thing is to be sure your player
has up-to-date equipment that fits properly. A new set of shoulder
pads may just be the magic feather that will allow your player to fly
un-afraid. Second, it's important
that your player learns how to check properly and that includes learning how to take a
check. In our
November issue,
Dan wrote about how to protect yourself when you're near the boards as
well as in open ice (an important point of that article is learning to "check back" to lessen the impact of an
oncoming hit). Third, it's important that your league's
administrators make it clear to players, coaches, and officials that illegal checks will not be tolerated.
Perhaps
it goes without saying, but hitting for the purpose of putting a skilled
opponent out of the game or intimidation in youth hockey is intolerable.
What part of having fun, or increasing athleticism, or teaching life
lessons - the reasons we put our kids in youth hockey - does deliberate
injury or intimidation fall under? I believe to encourage that
behavior from the stands by screaming, "Hit him! Hit him!" is just as
unconscionable as for a coach to say, "Let's try to take out Number 9".
All of
this is to say that your attitude toward the game may go a long way toward
how your child reacts to the introduction of checking. By taking
proper precautions with equipment, by being sure your players have some
instruction in checking, by minimizing your expressions of over-concern,
and limiting your over-zealous encouragement you can minimize the fear
of entering PeeWees and the probability that the child's fears may come
true.
Jay M. Bylsma
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THIS MONTH'S SAYING TO PUT IN YOUR
LOCKER...
"Not
everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be
counted."
Albert Einstein
Our thanks
to Carmen Yannelli for sending us this quote.
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ONE KID'S TRIP TO THE NHL -
current installment...
Hockey
has been the topic of conversation in our country in the past weeks like
never before and like those of us in the sport never wished it would.
My father and I have been contacted more than a time or two by the
national and local media to give our opinion of the "rink rage" case.
We've seen all sorts of experts on various TV shows talking about the
State of the Union of youth sports in general and hockey in particular.
One
such expert claimed that the reason for the rise in rink rage is the
motivation to qualify for college athletic scholarships.
For a medium size Division University like the one I attended, on
average there are about five dollars in academic scholarships for every dollar
paid out in athletic scholarships. For larger institutions the ratio of
non-athletic scholarships is higher.
Yet we don't read of parents engaged in fisticuffs over SAT scores or
GPAs or parents confronting each other over cello scholarships. It
seems that if a scholarship was such an important goal, the parental
focus would be on encouraging good grades (costing nothing but time and
energy) instead of spending more than the equivalent of a college education over
the course of a youth hockey career, hanging out in cold ice rinks, and
traveling to play in towns they wouldn't think of visiting on vacation.
Another
believed that the rink rage is an extension of the violence that's
prevalent in hockey as a sport.
While I’m quick to acknowledge what’s often shown on the hockey sports
highlights is not fiction,
I'm
also not sure that's a fair correlation. There is no violence
allowed in youth hockey, it's almost non-existent in collegiate hockey,
and fighting in the NHL has been significantly reduced over the years
while at the same time, the violence by adults in the stands in youth
hockey is on the increase.
One talking head
suggested that parents are more invested today in the progress of their
children, more intensely involved than in days past - leading to
confrontational over-reaction. While that would be nice to
imagine, an educator of my acquaintance who is nearing retirement claims
that the noticeable decline of parental interest and involvement with
their children's academic progress is a widely discussed topic among
educators. Many parents never show up for parent/teacher
conferences, PTA meetings, or school programs but the same parents
wouldn't miss a soccer game.
I'd
like to suggest that we're not dealing with a youth hockey problem.
There's nothing intrinsically wrong with youth or hockey or the youth in
hockey or hockey as a child's pastime. It's provided a wonderful
wintertime activity on the frozen lakes and ponds over North America for
generations of kids. It's a societal problem that adults
bring to the rink, the court, and the playing field. It's
manifested in unabashed verbal abuse to officials, many of whom are
little more than children themselves. It's seen in confrontations
between parents and other parents, parents and coaches, and most sadly -
parents and their children ("I didn't spend all this money for you to
play like a wimp. You need to be more aggressive out there!!!").
This problem is also manifested in "road rage", and "shopping cart rage"
which by the logic of some of the experts we should attribute to roads
and shopping carts.
The
participants were not stopped recently from being verbal in an Ohio
youth soccer league, it was the adults who where muzzled. The
officials in a recent youth hockey game cleared the stands, not the
players. It wasn't a participant in the Massachusetts rink pick-up
game who was on trial for manslaughter and it wasn't a child who
splashed hot coffee in the face of a referee in a recent tournament.
I think
two questions need to be addressed. Why have parents become
so invested in the progress of their children in youth sports to the
exclusion of other arguably more important endeavors,
and, why the amount of "parental involvement and attendance in a youth
sport program is usually inversely proportional to the focus on the
benefits for the children" - to quote my educator friend.
As a
NHL hockey player with only an accounting degree, I'm not qualified to
answer these questions. But from my own experience, I can tell you
that youth sports in my family was ever, always, and only a child's
pastime - a reward for eating my
peas, doing my homework, and mowing the lawn - all considered far more
important in my development as a person than a youth hockey or baseball
game. And in spite of what many would consider oppressive parental
restrictions on our hockey development (church attendance was required
on Sunday morning - game or no game, we couldn't play travel
hockey until we were 14, and couldn't play the year around), three of us
played college hockey, the third brother could have but chose to forego
hockey and concentrate on his education. And I'm living my dream -
perhaps not in spite of these restrictions, but because of them.
I think society should
be concerned about the values we teach our children when we would spend
$6,000 for a child to play travel hockey and wouldn't spend $60 on his
or her reading tutor or we travel across state lines for a soccer
tournament but not across the street to go to parent/teacher
conferences. What do our children learn about respect for
authority figures when their parents are openly abusive to game
officials and coaches. And what do we communicate when the child's
sports schedule is on the refrigerator door - not the schedule for for
religious instruction and church or synagogue attendance.
I contend that the only
reason for participation in youth sports is to have fun, increase
athleticism, and learn life lessons. Ideally the life lessons will
be the value of team play, sportsmanship, playing by the rules, and
accepting coaching to improve one's skills. Society should be
concerned that the life lessons that are being modeled (and
learned) are not as idealistic. Instead we're teaching that differences of opinion
are settled by violence rather than debate, that outrage can
legitimately generate from pastimes, that verbal and physical abuse are
acceptable outlets for frustration, and there is no moral price to pay
for "winning at all costs".
It's long past the time
some adults in youth sports clean up their act before they get involved
in youth sports so they can focus on the wholesome
purposes of youth sports, and improve the lessons they're teaching their
children. Or I fear the next trial for manslaughter will be held in
Juvenile Court. And the same talking heads will speculate as to
why and be skating on the same thin ice.
Note: This has or will appear as a
guest essay in several newspapers.
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So Your Son Wants to Play In The NHL
Published in 1998 by Sleeping Bear Press in the US and McClelland & Stewart
in Canada. HC $24.95. The story of Dan’s journey from the ice rink in our
back yard to the NHL. “This is the best hockey advice since ‘Don’t rile
Gordie Howe’”. "This is more than a hockey book. It's a book about life and
how to use simple lessons and values for success. …a refreshing
straight-ahead approach that makes you feel that you've learned something."
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So You Want to Play In The NHL
Published in November, 2000, by NTC/
Contemporary/McGraw-Hill. Trade paperback—$14.95.
Thirty-five questions that aspiring young athletes have and Dan’s and Jay’s
alternating answers. Forward by Luc Robitaille. This book won’t help you
play the game better, but we think it will help you live the game better. “I
am making this book required reading for my team because it confirms
everything I have ever said in the locker room and to parents.” Coach John
M. You can read a chapter by clicking
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Pitcher’s Hands is OUT!
Is finally out!
(released) and you can get it at on line on the web site or at Barnes &
Noble. Published in February by River Road Publications.
HC $15.95. A historical novel about what it was like to be a kid living in
the Great Depression. It’s a great baseball tale. “…a wonderful story – rich
in historical detail, full of excitement, warmth, and humor – a story that
readers of all ages will not want to end.”
"These
father-son authors... made a literary double play."
Grand Rapids Press.
You can read a chapter by clicking
here. You can get autographed,
personalized
copies at
www.DanBylsma.com.
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IT'S COMING SOON IN
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Slam Dunks Are Not Allowed!
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another historical novel is
coming – this one about basketball and World War II
will be released in early 2002. Many of the same characters you will
read about in
Pitcher Hands is OUT! – Scooter, Woody, Doolie and Dutchie - are now
on the High School basketball team and are facing the reality of going off
to war, a war that touched every family in America as well as Europe and the
Pacific Rim. You can read part
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“Remember… it takes three
things to succeed:
talent, hard work and perseverance.
And
the greatest of these is not talent.” J.M.B.
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