Volume 3, Issue 8 - April, 2003
"From the Right Wing "
ANAHEIM MIGHTY DUCKS #21
Dan Bylsmas Newsletter --- A Feature of West Michigan Hockey Camp, Inc.
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TThis month's issue contains:
DAN'S TIP OF THE MONTH THIS MONTH'S QUESTION TRUST FUND AUCTION TIPS FROM HOCKEY CAMP DAN'S HONOR ROLL
COACH'S TIP THE SAYING OF THE MONTH DAN TRIP IN THE NHL DAN & JAY'S BOOKS A WAY TO SUBSCRIBE
DAN'S TIP OF THE MONTH FOR PLAYERS
As you know, the Duckies are surprising some people by their success in the playoffs. If you read the papers, particularly the Michigan papers, and listened to the experts, particularly the experts residing in Michigan, you heard that the Duckies were thought to be little more than a warm-up exercise for the Red Wings who were on there way to their rightful Stanley Cup championship repeat. The Ducks, it seemed, hardly had the credentials to be on the same ice as the vaunted Wings.
There were articles that told the Red Wing faithful that Curtis Joseph, who was bought by Detroit for the purpose of assuring another Cup, was more than able to de-feather the toothless Ducks. Experts extolled the virtues of a team loaded with future Hall of Famers whose very presence on the ice assured victory. And the Ducks lack of playoff hockey experience was certain to make them easy prey for the destined Wings.
To be candid, while we thought we had a pretty good chance to be competitive, none of us on the Ducks believed we would sweep them. But Jiggy (a relative unknown east of the Mississippi) played better than Cujo. Our Hall of Famers (and we have our share of them) played better than their Hall of Famers and our no-name players played as if they had recognizable names. Now you know why we actually play these games instead of letting the experts and the newspaper writers choose for us.
I think there is a lesson in this for you - regardless of your age. Don't listen to those who would belittle your chances for success - at hockey or anything else you want to achieve. You have more to say about your destiny than your coach, your G.M., your league officials, the man who writes stories in your local paper, or anyone else who says that you're not good enough, that you won't make it, or that you're a loser. The experts in your world are even less knowledgeable than the experts you see on TV or the writers in the newspapers. And now we know how wrong even the expert experts can be.
If the Ducks had listened to their naysayers, we could have come into Detroit with our wings clipped and been easy prey for the Wings. But we believed in ourselves, in the goals we had set, and we were successful. I encourage you to believe in yourself, not in those people around you who belittle you, your abilities, or your goals.
Proving the "experts" wrong can make for some very good feelings inside, as I've found out a time or two. I hope you can have the same feelings.
P.S. Does anyone know if there is any truth to the rumor that's circulating around California that they are considering renaming Detroit from Hockeytown to Shockeytown?
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THIS MONTH'S BEST QUESTION ON THE WEB SITE
Dear Dan or Jay: Both my sons, 6 and 9 play hockey as well as other sports. They both would like to be better players but I wonder if they have the work ethic necessary to progress. How do you develop in instill an excellent work ethic in kids, whether it be for sports, better grades in school, and some day - their careers? Hockey Mom
Dear H. M.: Dan's initial comment was to tell you it might be too late. He further thinks I should answer this one after he compared my years of parenting experience with his. So you get me instead of Dan. Dan surmises right - this is not a hockey question, it's a parenting question and I frankly don't know what the answer is for you in your situation, but I'll give it a try.
First, I don't think it has much to do with sports; that is, the work ethic carries over into sports, sports doesn't give you a work ethic. As John Wooden said, "Sports doesn't teach character, sports reveals character."
Second, I think it's something learned by example rather than taught. I can remember Dan in a talk saying that he remembers my coming home for dinner and then going back to the office, and that once or twice I worked through the night to meet an important deadline and got home in time for breakfast and a shower and to take them to school and what an impression that made on him. The adage, "Do as I say, not as I do" rarely works.
Third, I think in part it comes from a learned relationship between effort and effect. That is, when you work at something there is an accomplishment/benefit received. You practice the piano for an hour, you can play for two (and you get better at the piano); you keep your room cleaned, you can play hockey (and you can find things in your room) , you work hard and get good grades you get to see the pride glowing in your father's eyes (and you learn more).
Fourth, if you teach the child to be responsible in the important things - education, religion, social skills, family relationships - that will translate into being responsible in playtime. I don't think you can expect responsibility in playtime if it is not learned and is a part of the child's fabric in education, religion, etc.
An antidotal example, I know of a family who played hockey with our children who were quite well off and their children had the best of everything, sometimes before they needed or wanted it. I don't know if their family motto was ever written in Latin but in English it was, "If you want it, we'll show you what good parents we can be by not only getting it, but getting the best of it for you." The Bylsma family motto was, "If you need it, we'll get it for you. If you want it, you have to pay for half of it yourself."
When Dan was entering the 9th grade and would begin to play high school golf he was playing with a set of adequate women's clubs and would be needing a men's set soon.
At about the same time, his friend from the family mentioned got a set of new, expensive clubs and frankly, he had not yet advanced to the duffer stage, while Dan was shooting in the 70s. Oh, how Dan coveted those clubs, to the point of believing life wasn't fair. We told him, if you want new clubs, we'd pay half (golf clubs being a want, not a need).
That summer he found a job cleaning out what amounted to tar out of settlement ponds... a hot, dirty, filthy, dust-choking job and he made enough money to buy a used set of Hogan copper-faced clubs - top of the line clubs at the time. That fall he won the Michigan State High School Golf tournament as 9th grader - with those clubs - which he still uses (and takes pride in) today. I think I can say with some authority that his aforementioned friend hasn't broken 100 yet and that he no longer has a complete set of clubs - I know at least one of them is in the pond at the 17th hole at our local course. And in spite of being born with a silver spoon in his mouth, he is still trying to find himself and a career if and when he locates himself. He never learned a work ethic because in his formative years, he didn't need to develop one to get what he wanted.
In short, you teach them to clean their room, and then they'll take good care of their gear. You teach them to work hard at their schoolwork or chores around the home and they'll work hard at their playtime. If you have a work ethic as a parent, they will usually emulate that, or do it to gain your approval.
And don't worry about their success in their games because it's not up to you. You can relax. As Sparky Anderson said, "Your son will make it to the (NHL) in spite of what you do for him, not because of what you do for him."
Jay M. Bylsma
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To all the Mothers in our extended hockey family... If you are like Dan's Mom, your son or daughter's hockey involvement has not been without a sacrifice of time, money, and emotional energy on your part. We'd like to honor you and the contributions you make to your children and to the children in your extended hockey families... on your Mother's Day. |
There is no auction this month...
DAN'S TIP OF THE MONTH THIS MONTH'S QUESTION TRUST FUND AUCTION TIPS FROM HOCKEY CAMP DAN'S HONOR ROLL
COACH'S TIP THE SAYING OF THE MONTH DAN TRIP IN THE NHL DAN & JAY'S BOOKS A WAY TO SUBSCRIBE
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We were sorry to receive the sad news that several players who were coming from Japan (including Yuka Nojima and Shohei Itami who attended last year) cannot come this year due to scheduling conflicts. If you were considering coming to the Travel Skills section of the camp, there are now a few openings.
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From time to time we are alerted to training devices that may have value. We've told you about the Frappier Acceleration program and various web sites that contain helpful information. Recently we've learned of a man who has re-invented the chair. Before you laugh, many of you learned to skate by pushing a chair around for balance, then with another person on it to learn to push off. Well, a man from Canada has re-invented the chair, made it adjustable, weight bearing, (this is not your father's rocker) and it doesn't cost as much as a folding chair. We're told it's getting high marks from skating instructors and we're considering buying one for our hockey school. You can check it out at www.perfectskater.com. And tell Mr. Dumont that Dan sent you.
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NAME |
AGE |
GPA |
SCHOOL |
TEAM |
STATE |
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Ross Hinkle |
11 |
3.67 |
Wayland Middle School |
G.R. Grizzlies PeeWee AA |
MI* |
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Shannon Kelsey |
14 |
4.0 |
Estero High School |
Pinch a Penny Womens League |
FL |
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Lucas Kelsey |
13 |
3.57 |
Three Oaks Middle School |
Jr. Everblades Bantam A |
FL |
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Cliff Jones |
13 |
3.86 |
Spring Lake Middle School |
Muskegon Chiefs Bantam B3 |
MI* |
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Marshall Jones |
11 |
4.0 |
Spring Lake Intermediate |
Lakeshore House - Bonners |
MI* |
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Brad Christiansen |
11 | 3.83 | White Pines Middle School | Norton Shores (Vers. Fab) PeeWee |
MI* |
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Winston Jones |
9 |
3.9 |
Holmes Elementary School |
Shoreline Rec League Squirt |
MI* |
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Brandan Ryfiak |
11 |
3.538 |
N. Rockford Middle School |
Rockford PeeWee |
MI* |
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Marshall Jones |
11 |
4.0 |
Spring Lake Intermediate |
Lakeshore House - Bonners |
MI* |
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Ryan Christiansen |
8 | TR | Peach Plains Elementary | G. H. Plastics Mite In-line |
MI |
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Jeremy Hopersberger |
11 | 4.0 | Laingsberg Middle School | Lansing Capitals PeeWee A |
MI* |
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Andrew Frank |
8 |
3.67 |
Eagle Lake Elementary |
Irish Rover Mite A |
MI |
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Paul Engman |
12 | 3.72 | E. Rockford Middle School | Rockford PeeWee |
MI* |
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Aaron Arkema |
11 | 4.0 | Laingsberg Middle School | Lansing Capitals PeeWee A |
MI* |
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Matt Rosenthal |
11 |
3.75 |
Chapparel Elementary |
Calababas Flyers PeeWee |
CA* |
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Ryan Corgan |
14 | 4.0 | North Muskegon Middle | Muskegon Chiefs Bantam B1 |
MI* |
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Josh Corgan |
10 | 4.0 | North Muskegon Elementary | Muskegon Chiefs Squirt AA |
MI* |
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Caleb Weiler |
9 | 3.87 | Calvary Christian Academy | Hatfield Ice Dogs Squirt A |
PA |
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Harrison Huls |
9 |
3.87 |
Blaisdale Montessori School |
Ajax Knights A Minor Atoms |
ONT |
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Sammie Baker |
10 |
4.0 |
Fr. Marquette Middle School |
Marquette LitiGators Girls 11 Under |
MI* |
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Josh Weinstein |
10 | 4.0+ | A.P. Terhune Elementary | Ice House Avalanche Squirt AA |
NJ |
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| Kris Johnson | 10 | 3.65 | St. Stevens Lutheran | Lakeland Squirt Spitfires | MI* | |
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Bennett Schneider |
13 |
3.78 |
Canterbury School |
Jr. Everblades Bantam AA |
FL |
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Madison Schneider |
9 |
4.0 |
Canterbury School |
Teco Squirt House |
FL |
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Colton Ritchie |
9 |
4.0 |
Schola Maxima |
Red Wings Squirt House |
AL |
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Dakota Abramowicz |
11 |
4.0 |
Jane Addams Middle School |
Royal Oak Eagles PeeWee A |
MI |
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Matt Weinstein |
12 | 4.0 | Schyler Middle School | Ice House Avalanche PeeWee AA |
NJ |
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Ben Grace |
9 | 3.63 | Raisinville Ellmentary | Monroe Ice Hawks Squirt B |
MI* |
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Jonathan Koslop |
11 | 4.0 | Bonita Middle School | Sunrise Ice Sharks Black |
FL |
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Andrew Lawrence |
11 | 3.9 | Quinton Township School | Delaware Jr. Blue Hens PeeWee A |
DE |
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David Lawrence |
13 | 4.0 | Quinton Township School | Delaware Jr. Blue Hens Bantam AA |
DE |
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Reid Munroe |
10 | 4.0 | North Muskegon Elementary | Muskegon Chiefs Squirt AA |
MI |
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Ben Bodman |
13 | 3.93 | Mason Middle School | Lansing Senator Bantam B |
MI* |
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Mark Hazel |
13 | 3.9 | Pinewood Middle School | W. Michigan Bantam A |
MI |
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Tyler Spiering |
12 | 3.9 | Sylvan Christian School | EGRAHA Bantam B |
MI*! |
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Matt Slowinski |
11 | 3.79 | Tawas City Elementary | GSAHA TBF Graphic Blues PeeWee |
MI |
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Bobby Pease |
10 | 3.88 | Eugene Vining Elementary | Billerica Squirt A |
MA |
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Mitch Hughes |
10 | 3.9 | Stoneybrooke Christian | Anaheim Jr. Ducks Squirt A |
CA |
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Marty Jensen |
13 | 3.75 | Anderson Middle School | Omaha Bantam B3 - Reds |
NE |
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James Sheff |
10 | 4.0 | Island City Academy | Anaheim Jr. Ducks Squirt A |
MI* |
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Alex Toppin |
9 | 3.85 | Miliam Upper Elementary | Tupelo T-Rex Squirts |
MS* |
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Drew Toppin |
12 | 3.9 | Miliam Upper Elementary | Tupelo T-Rex PeeWee |
MS |
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Joe Adams |
11 | 4.0 | St. Paul's Lutheran | JR. Mighty Ducks PeeWee AA |
CA |
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Vinny Valentine |
10 | 4.0 | Three Oaks Elementary | Jr. Everblades Squirt AA |
FL |
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Blake Ramos |
11 | 4.0 | Chippewa Middle School | Lansing Capitals PeeWee A |
MI |
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Sean Wilson |
10 | 3.8 | Pelican Marsh Elementary | Jr. Everblades Squirt AA |
FL |
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Andrew Steghuis |
11 | 3.5OGI | Grandville East Elementary | Grandville Ice Dawgs PeeWee |
MI* |
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Donald Sund |
9 | TR | Immanuel St. James Luthn | GRAHA Squirt A |
MI* |
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Taylor Olson |
9 | 4.0 | Centre City Elementary | Hollydell Hurricanes Squirt A |
NJ |
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Ben Suchin |
11 | 3.7 | Running Springs Elementry | Hunting Beach SunDevils PeeWee A |
CA |
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Kris Johnson |
11 | 3.83 | St. Stephen Lutheran | Lakeland Spitfires Squirt |
MI* |
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Ross Hinkle |
12 | 3.71 | Wayland Middle School | G.R. Grizzles Bantam AA |
MI* |
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Ian Lane |
9 | 4.0 | Evangelical Christian School | Jr. Everblades Squirt AA |
FL |
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Devin Steele Stankevitz |
9 | 4.0 | Glenview Elementary | Long Beach Jr. Ice Dogs Squirt BB |
CA |
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Jeremy Dunbar |
12 | 4.0 | Colerain Middle School | Cincinnati (GCYHL) PeeWee B |
OH |
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I can make lot's of room for you here |
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